How To Heal Emotionally We Are Emotional Beings      We are mental and emotional as well as physical beings. We can feel deeply and sometimes these feelings are more than we are able to handle and sometimes our feelings are hurt. Just as we heal from physical injuries, we have the ability to heal from mental and emotional injuries.      We have had a mechanism for many generations that allows us to repress feelings and go on with our lives. This mechanism has protected us in times of extreme circumstances and during times when our life was threatened. There was also a time that we would stop and allow these feelings to come and go until they were gone completely.      For several generations we have honored those people who can suck it up, who are strong, who have the ability to repress these feelings and get on with their lives. We almost worship them, not knowing that this is the direction that winds up destroying health and relationships. The First Step To Healing      Becoming aware of these feelings from our past that are driving many of our behaviors and relationship patterns is the first step to being able to heal.      Once we are aware of the emotional reactions and responses, it is not enough. Nothing will change until we experience letting go. We will remain stuck in the same emotions and patterns until we are able to allow all feelings even the deepest of them to come to the surface so that we can let them go.      Currently our problem is not on the letting go side, it is on the letting come side. We have all become masters at keeping them repressed, not letting them out and for sure not letting anyone know how we are truly feeling.      Many of us have no awareness of these repressed feelings and have no idea that we can heal them. Access to them is during times of life transitions or because of physical pain or illness. When we become emotional there are feelings that want to come and go. The courage and vulnerability necessary to allow them to heal only comes when we feel safe. For many of us it has not been safe for us for a very, very long time, maybe never.      Sometimes we are able to heal these feelings spontaneously. It always feels so good to let them go. Many times however we need to have the assistance of a facilitator or coach to help us remember to let them come and go. At these times we have a reminder of how easy life can be and feel so relieved when something is over or finished.      There are times that we have healed some of the pain or anger or fear from an event, but have not yet given up our resentment or shame for what happened. There can be many feelings that occurred with any traumatic or overwhelming event. Sometimes we will revisit the same event because it is not completely clear.      We must be careful not to deceive ourselves into thinking something is finished when it is not and we are still affected by the memory of an event or the thought of a person. If we get emotional about either of these we are not finished. We may have moved significantly, but when a feeling is completely clear we are not emotional, closed, stuck or blocked.      The caution is to be careful if we say things like: “That doesn’t bother me any more!” or “I’m over that!” or “I’m finished with that!” or “That is behind me now!” or even “I’ll never do that again!”      Healing has truly occurred when we are no longer emotional, when we only have loving thoughts and feelings for ourselves and everyone else in our lives. Once we experience healing a repressed feeling of emotional pain, we can use the process as a path to personal transformation, freeing ourselves from the unconscious reactions and responses that dominate our actions and behaviors.      Emotional healing then becomes a way of life, a way of taking care of ourselves that will help us heal from a variety of conditions and prevent others from developing. It is a fundamental process of life and should be understood and used by us all eliminating suffering and establishing great relationships based on trust, respect, love, comfort and support.